"My ex emotionally abused me for years. The law must change to end this cruelty." - This was a subject of the article placed in TheGuardian.com on Thursday 21 August 2014. Further we can read: "Even when I tried to
protect my child from my ex-husband, the justice system didn’t support
me." And even further we can read: "The fact that one in four women will encounter domestic violence in their lifetime suggests that abuse in the home, although rarely discussed at the school gate, is by no means uncommon." But how objective it really is?
Let's see... the fact that one in four women will encounter domestic violence...
Who the hell calculates those so called facts? When a man gets arrested for domestic violence, it is not going to be noted by the police that he was actually a victim of such a violence, not even if he makes a formal statement in writing! Of this I'm sure. I have experienced this myself.
The home secretary, Theresa May, stated in her report: "There were 269,000 domestic-abuse-related crimes in England and Wales between 2012 and 2013, the report said, with 77 women killed by their partners or ex-partners in the 12-month period." Did she mention anything about male victims? Obviously she forgot to. That's because there is no objectivism in this so called "fact finding". There never was. The police are not trained properly and they are limited by their inner procedures and policies, so they can't do their jobs well without breaking the law. And the law has more to do with bullshit than with justice!
This very same report claims that the most vulnerable victims face a lottery in the way their cases are dealt with. It also identifies "poor attitudes, ineffective training and inadequate evidence gathering". I agree. In many cases there is no adequate evidence indicating that a male suspect committed a crime. But still he is treated with such an attitude...!
The home secretary, Theresa May, stated in her report: "There were 269,000 domestic-abuse-related crimes in England and Wales between 2012 and 2013, the report said, with 77 women killed by their partners or ex-partners in the 12-month period." Did she mention anything about male victims? Obviously she forgot to. That's because there is no objectivism in this so called "fact finding". There never was. The police are not trained properly and they are limited by their inner procedures and policies, so they can't do their jobs well without breaking the law. And the law has more to do with bullshit than with justice!
This very same report claims that the most vulnerable victims face a lottery in the way their cases are dealt with. It also identifies "poor attitudes, ineffective training and inadequate evidence gathering". I agree. In many cases there is no adequate evidence indicating that a male suspect committed a crime. But still he is treated with such an attitude...!
If a man tells in court that he was emotionally abused by his female partner, this is in most (if not in every) cases disregarded! There is no reason why a man can possibly hit a woman - this is what the man will hear in the court. How about to defend himself from her? How about to defend a baby from her violence?
Additionally it is not easy for a man to admit being hit or abused by a woman. Most of the real men will not tell anyone that their female partner has shouted at them yet again, hit them on the face, scratched them on the neck. Men keep their domestic relationships to themselves, because that's what the members of the loving couple should normally do.
Further more men don't usually contact the social services to inform about being a victim of domestic violence. Men don't have time for this. Someone has to earn that money, which is later spent by wife/partner for expensive shoes, jewelery and cosmetics... or in case of my female ex-partner for alcohol. If a man was spending time on a phone with social services informing them about emotional discomfort from his female partner, he would feel somewhat stupid. If this man calls the police to inform that his partner is drunk to unconsciousness, she took a baby and she went out from home in the middle of the night to continue drinking and she is missing... the police will reply that they can not do anything about it, because she has not been reported missing for more then 48 hours.
On top of the above the men are already aware that this social system doesn't work. Men and women are not and never were treated equally. Women were always favored by the social services, the courts and by the police. That's obvious, because it is the women, not men, who give birth to the children and who are smaller, more delicate. Well... how about they are more delicate only on the outside?
I fully accept that "The law must change to end this cruelty." in my opinion the police must consider that sometimes a male suspect is in fact a victim of a female cruelty. And all of us should consider that sometimes the so called professionals like social services, the police, the courts don't have even a slightest idea about the justice or even how to do their job according to the already existing law. In such a situation let's not make it even more difficult for them.
